“What’s a nice girl like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?”
That is a very good question. It’s what happens, actually, when a nice girl like me creates a profile on OK Cupid, a dating site where it’s nearly impossible to hide one’s profile. Anybody can see me. And I do mean anybody. Not only can I not hide my profile, I also can’t restrict who sees me based on age or location. Which is why a nice girl like me has had messages from men as far away as Australia and Romania, from married men interested in polyamourous relationships, and from men as young as 21. (Um, hello! I’m more than twice as old as you!)
Really, the question should be, “What in the hell is a nice girl like me doing on OK Cupid in the first place?” I’ve written before about how Plenty of Fish is my spiritual dating home, about how I like the free-for-all, party atmosphere there, about how I like the features that give me some semblance of control over my dating life. You’d think I’d have the good sense to stick with the tried and true.
But I’m starting to feel like a bit of a dating expert. And dating experts should be familiar with all the dating websites, don’t you think? Also, I wanted to check out the multiple choice questions which OK Cupid is famous for, questions like “how soon after meeting someone would you consider having sex with them?” You’d be surprised how many men answer, “after one date.” My favourite question so far: “If you died suddenly, would the person who cleaned out your bedroom be surprised by what they found there?”
Apparently, the questions get more interesting and entertaining the more you answer. I guess it beats Solitaire on a Friday night.
The main problem with OK Cupid is that there are only about four men from Victoria on it. So I guess it’s a good thing that you can’t hide your profile, nor put limits on who can contact you. and I guess that’s how a nice girl like me found herself explaining to a 21 year old from Texas why age, actually, is more than just a state of mind.
The best thing about OK Cupid is the tongue in cheek humour you find around the site. One of the things that appears on a profile is how frequently a person responds to messages. You’ll see a comment like “Responds frequently” or “Responds selectively.” The other day, a guy contacted me and his profile said, “Responds in the light of the Gibbous Moon.”
Perhaps a nice girl like me should just stick with Solitaire.